𝐈 𝐝𝐢𝐝 𝐚 podcast 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐨𝐧 𝐬𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲, 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬. Learning this skill will have a major impact on your life and relationships, as you get better and better about who gets access to you, and how you choose to spend your energy acting – and reacting – in the presence of those around you.
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐡𝐞𝐝, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐝. There will be a choice few who sneak in there and trigger you, and you will be tempted to respond as the person you used to be: the people pleaser with very soft boundaries who enabled bad behavior, and accepted relationship dynamics that did not serve.
Everything we experience in life is something to teach us. Everything. And it’s the worst stuff that usually offers – sometimes painfully – the best lessons.
I use the phrase “emotional alchemy” a lot to describe not only the work I do with clients (coaching and even audiences I speak to), but also to describe my outlook on the experiences that have most informed my life. My dad gave me a copy of The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho in my late teens, and it remains my favorite book. Alchemy is the process of transforming something dark and heavy (like lead, base metals) into something valuable, wonderful, and life-prolonging (like gold).
“Emotional Alchemy” refers to what this emotional process can look and feel like in our lives: how we take the dark, heavy stuff that *could* stay dark and heavy, and weigh us down….and turn it into something f***ing beautiful. It’s not necessarily an easy process, but definitely gets easiER, as you learn to make sense of things faster, take them less personally, and make them your own instead of being OWNED by them.
Getting this kind of emotional freedom allows you to get clarity in what you want, confidence in who you are, and the courage to stay true to both…which is EXACTLY what you need to thrive in your business, relationships, and family or personal life. I go into detail on #emotionalalchemy on Ep 5 of my podcast, “To Call Myself Beloved;” this is ALL connected, and when you heal one thing, I promise that it ripples out to ALL of the other things. 🖤
I would love to help you kick start this process, and teach you the skills to do this for yourself. Email me to book a quick intro call to chat.
Until then, l𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐚 when you experience this EXCELLENT – if frustrating – teachable moment:
𝐃𝐨 𝐧𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐦, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐧𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐭. You’ve got this; you know exactly what to do.