The real secret of healing…

The real secret of healing…

Our healing is not linear: it’s a windy, twisty spiral that invites healing of each little part of ourself along the way, one part at a time. This is always so interesting to me, because “what’s wrong” or “what’s bothering us” is seldom what’s actually wrong, or...
How to create space for a better balanced life

How to create space for a better balanced life

How many times have you found yourself saying aloud, “I don’t have time to ______…” catch up with friends. Go on a date. Eat well. Do yoga. Read. Get away for the weekend. Invest in myself. Do the things I actually want to do. Run my side...
How to stop apologizing for how you feel

How to stop apologizing for how you feel

Recently I went to a Dolly Parton tribute show at a local dive bar; when one lovely singer covered “Down From Dover,” there were many tears coming from many eyes around me – and almost immediately, people started apologizing for those tears. Why does that...
You Alone Are Enough

You Alone Are Enough

“You alone are enough.” The first time someone said those words to me I was 28. I’d never heard them, and had no idea how to receive them. So I was inclined not to believe them.  For a lot of years, I’d been told a lot of myths – myths I’d come to believe. Myths...
How to shape your child’s inner voice

How to shape your child’s inner voice

*This piece was written for, and originally published at, The Unfit Parent You know that feeling, right before you’re about to make a decision, or just after you’ve received great news?  That feeling of a whisper in your brain that – unsolicited – weighs in with...